I have shared a great deal about my son, whom I call Builder or LG online, over the years. He’s doing great – I just thought, before I reposted old posts for folks to learn from and hopefully be encouraged by, I’d share with you the State of the Offspring. 🙂
After a year of trying solely behavior modification, we have had to resort to medication for Builder’s behavioral concerns. They stem in large part from anxiety and the inability to adequately express anger and frustration. His brain goes into “fight or flight” mode when he is under stress – as it does for most humans – but he is unable to control this adequately for interactions with other people. His brain doesn’t give him time to calm down before acting and he lacks a filter to pass this through before he responds.
So he fights. Or runs. Neither of which is acceptable for things like getting an 80% on a test or being asked to wait while a teacher finishes a conversation.
Recently, though, we have started him on medication to ease his stress level. I recently attended an IEP (Individualized Educational Program) meeting for him at his school, where I got to meet up with his teacher, the behavioral specialist, autism specialist, occupational therapist, speech therapist and staffing specialist. I have met with all of these wonderful women before and it was very comfortable. They all made sure to note that the Builder of late is very different than the child that started out his school year. His behavior and subsequent scholastic achievement have improved considerably.
And, you know, no one’s had to go to the hospital this year, either. Which is nice.
He is currently a B-student in third grade, in a self-contained classroom with six total students. His favorite thing to do is read – anything, really. From manuals on the Jeep’s maintenance to how to construct a train-table for his model trains, to Archie Comics and a graphic novelization of The Hobbit he reads a great deal. He enjoys board games like Monopoly and Clue. He enjoys drawing on paper and on the computer, making 3-D models of houses and board game boards. He is “designing” a new video game system, creating it for his imagination from pieces of other toys as well as things he draws and cuts to spec.
He has a vivid imagination and private world. But then, so do we all.
Storms still scare him, as does the loss of power or whenever our spotty internet crashes on us. Sudden changes send him into a panicky rage. Some days, he just picks fights…
But then, so do we all. 🙂
In a lot of ways, he is a very normal nine-year-old boy. In a lot of ways, he’s hard to figure out, too.
As we finish up this school year, I hope and pray that he can finally attend school for a full day…finally. He hasn’t done so since October of 2008. Not just because I would really appreciate some time to myself – and I would! – but so he will know he can do it. That he can get through an entire day like the other kids.
He says he’s ready. We’re letting him ease into it slowly.
I am optimistic.
🙂 Thanks for reading!