Autism

I hope that this page and all pages in this particular category will be informative and encouraging!

We here in the House O’Quill live with a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder.  Now, for some folks, that sounds scary.  Spousal Unit initially had visions of Rain Man. Some folks think immediately of little boys or girls who sit in a corner, oblivious to the world.

But see, having autism doesn’t mean you are immediately consigned to living and managing that type of behavior. On the contrary, there are ways of reaching an autistic person that are within anyone’s capability.

My son “Builder” is a high-functioning autistic child.  He has learned to communicate. He has a sense of humor. He is fascinating with many unusual preoccupations. He is not a “savant” by any means, but he is a really cool kid.

Within this section, as I get it developed, I hope to share our life here, our struggles with getting him identified, challenges with domestic life, stories of his school life, and the wonderful glimpses inside his mind.

Many people with autism lack “connections” in their brains that neuro-normal people have. I liken this to having some bridges out. You can’t replace them; they’re gone.  Still, rivers need to be crossed for connections to be made.  This is not about curing someone with autism. It’s about teaching them how to interact with the world. On terms that they can understand.

It’s about finding them the stepping stones to cross the rivers of the mind.  Show them the other side, encourage their interest in that other side, and then help them cross with the use of unconventional stepping stones.

And then, it’s about letting them DO it, and cheering them on all the while.

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9 replies »

  1. I loved this! Sooo right on. I am so interested in this. Leaps and bounds have been made since I worked at a school with all different spectrums of this condition. I love how much we have learned though I am sad for the kids who fell through the cracks back in the day when I started out. I wanted to be a Speech Therapist. I worked with a wonderful teacher named Kathy Kutcka who had teaching videos out and was from the same mind set. I stupidly fell in love and got married and followed a boy instead of my goals… so no, I never got to follow that path… but I saw the writing on the wall and the hope for doing exactly what you have embraced. Not trying to cute. But… Aclimating into the world, building new bridges over the rivers. I love your son’s name!

    • Hello!

      It is hard to think of the kids who fell through, I know. My husband is dyslexic, but no one knew, back in the day, and he was labeled as “being slow.” He taught himself to read The Chronicles of Narnia WHILE dyslexic? He’s so not slow. lol

      Nothing stupid about falling in love and getting married. 🙂 Sometimes the road we think we should take isn’t the best road for us.

      And thanks! My sons each chose their own online names when I first started blogging, eons ago, lol My older son is now an adult and my younger has chosen different names as he’s grown. These days, he’s “MSG” – Medium Sized Guy.

      Thanks for reading and your wonderful comments!

  2. Something I’ve realized is autistic kids, including mine, have a sense of humor. We may not pick up on the queues, but they’re equally funny in their own way. The difficulty though is stopping them from carrying on when they get started, which even leads to more hilarity. And who wants to stop them once they get started? We share good feelings and enjoy each other’s company in a humorous way!

  3. If the masses just took that minute to realize how wonderful our kids are, instead of judging…

    If we all had that oft mentioned nickel, dime, quarter, or dollar, every time someone muttered under their breathe, “what’s wrong with that kid” or how others have jumped to judge our parenting..

    • YES. Gosh, yes. Well, you know this. I have, I think, been able to open people’s eyes over the years to the possibilities that a publicly troublesome child might not be “bad” but may just have communication issues and so on. People are often too quick to judge – it gives one a feeling of strength to be able to say, “That’s Wrong.” But sometimes, we just have to say, “We don’t understand.”

      That takes strength, too.

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