A Good Day

He had a 100% day yesterday.  This was awesome. This meant he fulfilled his behavior contract.  No one got yelled at.  No one got referred.  He ate his lunch with one of the support staff as a reward for good behavior (because being in the quiet of the support room instead of the noise of the cafeteria is a reward for him).

All in all, it was a normal day.

Some days in the life of “the autism family” are very normal. But a great deal of orchestration goes into making them that way.

  • The “right” breakfast food must be available, served on the “normal” plates.
  • Meds must be provided via applesauce. 🙂
  • The morning routine must be followed, including the new Social Story to remind him of appropriate choices to make during the day, in adverse circumstances.
  • We must leave on time and arrive to school within a two-minute window or we are “Late!” and he is angry and afraid.
  • I must have my Kindle because we are accustomed to the Clock of Kindle to be synched to the school clock.
  • The school buses have to be on time. We don’t use them, but they must be arriving in their designated places before the time the doors open or MSG freaks out.
  • And then, in school, a “normal” day is assisted when all the students are well-behaved, the teacher and aid have no distractions or meetings. When the lunch on menu hasn’t been changed (whether or not MSG buys lunch, he freaks out if the menu changes. He has it memorized for the whole month.)
So, yes, it was a good day.  The kind of day most families expect to be “normal.” The kind of day I grew up with every single day as a child.
But here, in the House O’Quill, it’s not normal. Not at all.  But it is a great blessing.
Someday, if our days can become more “normal” more often, I’ll be able to relax in the hours he is away from me. Maybe go to a movie or something.
I keep hoping. 🙂